When Jack Rogers first heard media reports of Tiger Woods’ multiple extramarital affairs, the first thing he did was say a little prayer for Woods and his wife. The second thing he did was tally up the number of women who claimed to have had sex with the famous golfer.
“I said to myself, ‘My God, that’s some body count,’ ” Rogers remembers.
Jack Rogers — that’s not his real name — knows a little something about body count because he has one of his own: In the first 20 years of his marriage, he says, he slept with some 50 women. While some view Woods as just an unfaithful louse who was looking for a good time, Rogers sees him as a sex addict.
What’s the difference? Rogers, who works in the high-tech industry in Washington and has two children, says his whole life was geared around how he would have his next orgasm, in the same way a methamphetamine addict is constantly trying to find his next drug hit.
Between women and pornography, “I was having three, four, five orgasms a day,” he says. “As soon as I was done with one I was thinking about how I was going to get the next one. Sex was controlling my life, and I was miserable.”
Confessions of a sex addict
Now 49, Rogers says his addiction began at age 16.
“I would have sex for hours and hours at a time, and then go look at pornography,” he remembers. “Sex was my all-consuming endpoint.”
While some young men might brag about their sexual conquests, Rogers was the opposite. He kept his sex life a secret, seeking out girls who didn’t attend his high school.
He says no one suspected.
“I was elected all-school president,” he says. “I was well thought of. I earned a full scholarship to the University of Washington. If you’d met me, you’d think, ‘Wow, I want to give that kid a scholarship.’ ”
He continued to be obsessed with sex in college. “The day Mount Saint Helens blew up, everyone was talking about it. But I didn’t even know it happened because I was having sex all that day,” he remembers.
He was never faithful to a girlfriend, and although he married at age 25, he was never at any point faithful to his wife.
“I was having affairs while we were engaged,” he says.
His quest for sex started at 4 in the morning, when he would wake up to get in touch with the women he was seeing on the East Coast. The rest of the day was spent mapping out his sexual activities. Some of the women he had sex with were colleagues. Others were prostitutes. Some were women he met by chance.
“I could meet a woman on the elevator and be having sex in her apartment two days later,” he says. “I would just get a feeling, from the amount of eye contact or the type of eye contact, that a person would be open to the idea.”
He says he usually had two or three affairs going on at one time, but didn’t actually derive pleasure from them. “I wanted to stop and I couldn’t,” he says. “I was miserable. It was a horrible way to live.”
How do you know if you’re a sex addict?
Jay Parker, a dependency counselor who runs a program for sex addicts in Redmond, Washington, called “No More Secrets,” says an intense interest in sex doesn’t mean someone is a sex addict.
“It’s like with alcohol — everyone who gets a DUI isn’t an alcoholic,” he says. “There are people who have errors in judgment — they’re not addicts.”
So how do you know when someone’s behavior has crossed the line into addiction?
According to the Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health, an estimated 3 to 5 percent of Americans could fall in the category of having an addiction to sex.
However, it’s important to note that the official handbook of psychiatric diagnoses, The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, doesn’t include a diagnosis for sexual addiction. Some therapists, like Craig Fabrikant, a clinical psychologist at the Hackensack University Medical Center, doubts such a thing even exists.
“I think it’s more of a habit than an addiction,” he says. “I would classify it as OCD — more of an obsession or compulsion than an addiction.”
But professional arguments aside, Fabrikant agrees that people like Rogers who are miserable or dysfunctional because their sex lives are out of control need professional help — and that the first step is to recognize when they have a problem.
Click here to see checklists devised by the Sexual Recovery Institute and the Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health to help you determine whether you have a sexual addiction. If you answer yes to a high number of questions on any checklist, you may have a problem.
Here are some general ways to know you might have crossed the line from healthy sexual interest to sexual addiction or compulsion:
1. You lie
For Parker, the sex addiction counselor, this is the No. 1 way you know you’ve crossed the line: when you make up stories to get sex.
“If you lie with women to get them to have sex with you, you’re a predator and an addict,” he says.
2. Sex consumes you
If your interest in sex runs your life, you have a problem, says Robert Weiss, a social worker and founder of the Sexual Recovery Institute. He says addicts “are always preoccupied with hitting on someone, or picking someone up, or getting home to look at porn before their spouse comes home.”
3. You’re “divorced, dead, fired or arrested”
If you continue your sexual activities even under threat of being “divorced, dead, fired or arrested,” you’re an addict, Parker says.
“They ignore the consequences,” Weiss adds. “They say, ‘I could really screw up myself here, but I’m going to continue to do it.’ ”
4. You have an intense interest in pornography
“The pornography piece of this cannot be overstated,” Parker says. “Show me a guy who’s having sex with three women in one week, and I promise you he has a relationship with pornography.”
5. You want to stop and you can’t
Sexual addiction is defined by a loss of control, Weiss says.
“I was totally out of control. I tried to stop and I couldn’t,” Rogers says.
Five years ago, when the misery got to be too much, Rogers confessed his addiction to his wife and checked himself into an inpatient treatment program for a month, which included not having orgasms alone or with anyone else.
After leaving the treatment center, he continued on outpatient treatment, and has not cheated on his wife again.
In treatment, Rogers was not allowed to engage in any type of sexual activity or look at pornography. He also did what he called “psychodrama,” looking at situations from his past that might have led to his addiction, including being sexually abused repeatedly at age 7 by an older boy in his neighborhood. In other sessions, counselors helped him understand the effect he’d had on his wife and children, the women he’d slept with, and their families.
His wife joined him for two days at the program. He read her his “disclosure letter” describing his sexual activities over the past 20 years.
“She knew about the pornography and masturbation, but she didn’t know about the affairs or the prostitutes,” he says. “So it was very difficult to her to receive this information, just in terms of the sheer numbers of women.”
In the last week of treatment, he and his doctors mapped out what his life would look like back home after recovery. He sees a counselor and goes to a 12-step recovery program. “In my first 365 days after treatment, I went to 523 meetings,” he says.
Early on in his recovery he did sometimes look at Internet pornography, but a software program he installed on his computer alerted his wife and sponsor in his support group, and he stopped looking at porn.
Gradually, Rogers says, he learned how to have a healthy sex life with his wife.
“That’s what we aim for,” Parker says. “We’re not trying to turn someone into a monk. He needs to learn how to have sex like a gentleman.”

Holy blockbuster, Batman! A buzzy article from the New York Times revealed that director Christopher Nolan is hard at work on another flick.

Of course, it’s not like this is a huge surprise. There was no way Hollywood wasn’t going to make a sequel to the “The Dark Knight,” the third-highest-grossing movie of all time. Still, Nolan’s participation will likely cause a huge sigh of relief among moviegoers. Remember when, back in the ’90s, director Joel Schumacher replaced Tim Burton and nearly killed the franchise?

The forthcoming blockbuster (not yet titled) also illustrates the escalating battle between Warner Bros. — which produces many movies based on DC Comics, including “Batman” — and Disney, which recently acquired DC’s biggest rival, Marvel Comics.

Indeed, both studios have a slew of superhero flicks coming soon to theaters. In the New York Times article, it’s revealed that “Wonder Woman” and “The Flash,” both longtime favorites from DC, are “expected to (be) announced” in the coming months. Additionally, DC’s “The Green Lantern,” starring Ryan Reynolds as the hero and Blake Lively as his lovely love interest, is scheduled for a 2011 release. There’s even a rumor that Mr. Nolan may supervise the development of a “Superman” reboot.

Clearly DC has a lot of irons in the fire. But Marvel isn’t surrendering the cineplex anytime soon. Not only does Sony’s forthcoming “Spider-Man” reboot have a hot director at the helm (Mark Webb of “500 Days of Summer”), it’ll also come to theaters in 3D. Barring any delays, the flick, which will focus on Spider-Man’s high school trials and tribulations, will spin its way onto the big screen in 2012.

What’s that, Marvel superfan? Can’t want that long? No problem; “Iron Man 2″ has you covered. Paramount’s sequel to the surprise 2008 hit starring Robert Downey Jr. lands in theaters this summer and already has a sizable following in Search. Over the past month, online queries on the film are among Yahoo’s top 3,000. Additionally, Web interest in the trailer shows no signs of slowing down. Kind of like the war between DC and Marvel.

Phil Harris, the fishing boat captain whose adventures off the Alaska coast were captured on the television show “Deadliest Catch”, has died, the Discovery Channel said Tuesday night. He was 53.
Harris suffered what his family described as a massive stroke on Jan. 29 while the fishing vessel he captained, Cornelia Marie, was in port at St. Paul Island, Alaska. The fisherman was flown to Anchorage for surgery.
The reality show, which has filmed five seasons, has been one of the Discovery Channel’s most popular and depicts the crab fishing industry in the dangerous waters off Alaska.
“It is with great sadness that we say goodbye to our dad – Captain Phil Harris. Dad has always been a fighter and continued to be until the end,” sons Josh and Jake Harris said in a statement released by the network. “For us and the crew, he was someone who never backed down.”
In a statement, Discovery Channel senior vice president Elizabeth Hillman says, “Phil was a devoted father and loyal friend to all who knew him.”
“We will miss his straightforward honesty, wicked sense of humor and enormous heart,” she said.
In an e-mail to The Associated Press, she said no additional information was immediately available Tuesday night.
Harris had seemed to be improving, and in a posting last Saturday on the ship’s Web site, he was described as “talking to friends and family today; showing his greatest progress” since the stroke.
His sons wrote in a Feb. 3 posting that “No one ever said Captain Phil Harris wasn’t tough. Today, dad showed some good signs of improvement, squeezing our hands and even summoning his trademark Captain’s bluntness … We are encouraged but still very cautious.”
According to the ship’s Web site, Harris started working on fishing boats at age 7 and started work 10 years later on a crab boat. When Harris turned 21, he ran a fishing vessel out of Seattle, making him one of the youngest to captain a vessel in the Bering Sea.
When Harris suffered the stroke, the family said a friend, Derek Ray, had flown to St. Paul to take over the role of relief skipper for the rest of the opilio crab season.
Harris’ fishing vessel was based in Seattle.

Surrounded by an army of security, Mr. McMahon must have felt invincible. Unfortunately for him, revenge is a strong motivator. After suffering a despicable attack last week, Bret Hart offered The Chairman retribution, beating him down before getting dragged away.

There are a lot of Atlanta Falcons fans who still love Michael Vick(notes), and will always love Michael Vick. Why this is so, I’m not entirely sure, because it seems like with each passing day, Michael Vick makes a new effort to let the people at Atlanta know that he played them for chumps, every single step of the way.
First, while he was supposed to be saving the franchise and leading them to the promised land, he was also busy unleashing a holy war on the puppies of the area.
That’s a crime, of course, and it cost him a good portion of his football career and ended his stay with the Falcons. If you want to stick by Vick’s side through that, that’s fine. I get it. He’s a man, he made a mistake, and he deserves forgiveness. As long as he’s dedicated to the home team, we can forgive a human foible and move on, right?
Well, what if, at the same time, he didn’t give a damn about the home team, either?
Vick told 790 AM The Zone in Atlanta that while he played for the Falcons, he wasn’t giving 100%. Now, I’m sure a lot of people already had a hunch that Vick didn’t get the most out of his abilities, but hearing him admit is another thing. Vick openly admits that he wasn’t anywhere near the quarterback he should have been. From AJC.com:
“There was a lot more I could have done off the field and in the film room that could have elevated my game to a different level,” Vick said. “I was complacent at the time, somewhat lazy, and I settled for mediocrity. I thought what I was doing was enough.”
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“Just imagine what I could have been doing if I really would have been applying myself. That’s a regret I have.”
Now, there are a real crimes, and there are crimes against sports. Obviously, real crimes are worse.
But crimes against sports can be funny things. In a way, they’re a bigger betrayal, because when we care so much and invest so much energy in our favorite players in teams, it can hurt to know that they didn’t care even as much as you did.
Take Pete Rose, for example. His major offense in life was a crime against sports. He bet on baseball. Yet, he’s barred from the game, he’s become a joke and he’s basically a sports pariah. And yet, how many wife beaters and guys with multiple DUIs — real crimes that are clearly worse — take the field with no real consequences, day in and day out?
This newest Vick crime, the one against sports, is a serious one, because he’s gotten some insane amounts of unconditional love from the people of Atlanta, and what did he give them in return? Was he a model citizen and pillar of the community? No. Did he bust his hump to help the Falcons and work hard to be the best player he could be? Nope. He just admitted as much.
It seems like the love in that relationship has only gone one way. They loved Vick, and in return, he took their money, he took their cheers on Sunday, and he spit in their faces. Not just by his off-field activities, but by not caring about the game, either.

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In the year 2019, a plague has transformed most every human into vampires. Faced with a dwindling blood supply, the fractured dominant race plots their survival; meanwhile, a researcher works with a covert band of vamps on a way to save humankind.

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The Collector (2009) NTSC Retail DD5.1 Cust.NL

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Desperate to repay his debt to his ex-wife, an ex-con plots a heist at his new employer’s country home, unaware that a second criminal has also targeted the property, and rigged it with a series of deadly traps.

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A washed-up trainer takes a self-destructive young boxer under his wing.

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The Bad Lieutenant: Port of Call New Orleans
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Terence McDonagh is a drug- and gambling-addled detective in post-Katrina New Orleans investigating the killing of five Senegalese immigrants.

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During a mission in the Middle East, a group of US soldiers destroy a statue out of boredom only to then be visited by something the next day.

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